Valentine’s Day is the day that we set aside to celebrate Love! Many people ask me about how to activate relationships and romance in their life. In fact, it is one of the most common areas of life that clients want help with….along with finances. Of course, feng shui offers many traditional “cures” to reignite your love life, and although they can be supportive, I find other things we can do even more foundational.
Traditional feng shui says to look at the south west quadrant of your home (or the master bedroom) and make sure the fire and wood elements are balanced. This is helpful, but what about your own personal fire? Are you feeling magnetic and sexy? If not, why not? What are your beliefs around relationships that you learned growing up? What has been your experiences? Is there a story that you are writing about your own desirability or attractiveness to the opposite sex? Just notice what needs to be internally cleaned out of your own “Inner Sanctum” and find a symbolic way of letting them go. For example, you can write down what you want to let go of and burn it, journal your story or maybe it is that old photo of your past relationship that is still hanging out in the bedroom drawer where you put it the day you broke up. Take it out and let it go.
Some advise for the guys out there:
So what do women really want? Do we really want flowers and chocolates? Fancy dinner and champagne? Not so much….at least not more than we want your deep heart and unwavering presence. We want you to hold us steady in your penetrating gaze when we are drowning in waves of emotion. We want to know that you thought outside of the Valentines box. Thought about us and found a way to show that you treasure us. Whether that means a handmade Valentines card and a romantic poem you wrote or a recreation of an “Evening in Paris” in your living room with diner and french music.
So, it’s not about the presents, but rather about your presence. Nothing touches us deeper….
Happy Valentine’s Day!