Is it just me or does anyone else find it ironic that we bag our dog poop these days in little plastic bags that won’t decompose, mind you, because we don’t want to offend anyone with our dog’s shit. Are there landfills somewhere loaded up with little bags of dog shit being preserved for all eternity in little plastic bags?
It just struck me as very funny, in a strange kind of way, when I was out on the forest trail for my morning run. I passed a little black bag of shit that someone left on the side of the trail near a bush presumably to pick up at a later time. When? Did they forget? Are they trying to hide it”,I wondered? Here I am on this beautiful dirt and red rock forest trail leaping over various piles of mealy coyote dung, hay infused horse mounds and bunny nuggets all the while passing folks holding little plastic bags in order to pick up their dog’s shit!
Doesn’t this mirror us as human beings though? Here we are so afraid that we might leave our shit out where somebody might see or smell it and like the “Emperor Who Had No Clothes”, scream and point, “He’s full of shit“! You know what happens when we try to hide our shit inside? Somebody is sure to call us on our shit or accuse us of being a Bullshitter or worse yet, tell others that we are full of shit! Any yet, it’s true in a way.
Maybe if we let our dogs’ shit out in the wild like the rest of the animals and nature surely intended, we could help rid the earth of yet more plastic bags. Maybe if we brought our own shit up to be seen, instead of wrapping it up and storing it inside of ourselves, it might just decompose naturally in the light of Awareness. So, let’s start a movement to free our landfills of plastic dog shit bags and free our animals to take a dump with pride, with dignity and without us running behind them like merry maids to scoop and bag it. Encourage your pup to move his tail over to the side of the trail. After all, that’s just good manners. You and me? Let’s just kick out own shit to the curb and let it die a natural death. Both we and the planet will be a whole lot healthy for it!
It’s funny how people drift in and out of my life. Even years can pass and like a barnacle on the back of a whale, I look around and there they still are! Yes, that was a poor analogy, but sometimes it’s like that. We swim on, in and out of new bodies of water, and lo and behold when we stop to take a look around at our new horizon, they are still attached! Maybe it’s a symbiotic relationship of sorts. Who’s to say? They too, may benefit from remaining attached.
Is cutting the cord of past relationships always the best choice?
This has always seemed to be my personal Waterloo and has become the cause of many a disagreement between myself and current boyfriends, as well as girlfriends. “You need to cut the cord, let them go, pull the plug, do a clearing, burn the letters…” and the list goes on. I always brace myself just a little inside when this sort of advise, or even sometimes a demand, is presented to me as “good, solid advise for my highest and best interest”.
My life experiences make up the tapestry of who I am. Not a soul level, but in a way that has molded my character. I like the woman I have become, I truly do. Maybe because of this, when I uncover a thread from my past that was once wound around my heart, I cherish it. I don’t want to cut it out. I would rather weave it through so that it blends with the others, yet still stands alone in its own magnificence as a vital part of the woman that I am. I feel a tenderness and a sometimes soft pang I my heart when I trace the line of a particular thread back through time. Some are longer than others, some bright and colorful and others rich and dark . Some bring warmth and still burn bright while others remind me of courage and steps taken toward sovereignty.
No, I don’t want to cut any cords or break any precious threads. For this shimmering matrix is the mandala of my life and when I follow each thread to its source, that’s where I find God, and that is where love resides eternally unbroken.
Recently I was asked a question that went something like this, “Where do you feel that you are not supported by the Universe in your life?” Of course I had to take pause because I have a deep belief that God, as I prefer to call “The Universe”, does support me.
God, just seems more personal….more reachable to me than “The Universe”. I mean how does one actually have a personal relationship with “The Universe”? When faced with a challenging issue do we say, ” Wait, let me talk to my friend, “The Universe” and see what they have to say”? Why all the contraction on the word God? Is it really because we don’t have the skills to move past our childhood wounds around an intimidating father figure so we project that on to God? It’s like God, and even Jesus, have gotten a bad rap in the New Age. It’s all cool to wear Buddha plastered on our bellies or the rear bumpers of our cars, name smoothies and chocolate bars after him, but to openly express your love of J.C. and watch out, you’ve just opened yourself up to all sorts of uncool projections and judgments! Don’t believe me? Next time you go into a cafe’ try asking if they serve Jesus smoothies and just watch the looks you’ll get.
So, if you are ever asked the question if you believe that you are supported by “the Universe”, God or life and rush to the spiritually evolved answer of, “Yes, I believe in a supportive Universe and that I co-create my own reality, blah blah blah….” Let me ask you, if you believe that The Universe, Spirit or plain ol’ God supports your dreams, then why aren’t you living your wildest ones right NOW!?
Jesus is just alright with me,
Valentine’s Day is the day that we set aside to celebrate Love! Many people ask me about how to activate relationships and romance in their life. In fact, it is one of the most common areas of life that clients want help with….along with finances. Of course, feng shui offers many traditional “cures” to reignite your love life, and although they can be supportive, I find other things we can do even more foundational.
Traditional feng shui says to look at the south west quadrant of your home (or the master bedroom) and make sure the fire and wood elements are balanced. This is helpful, but what about your own personal fire? Are you feeling magnetic and sexy? If not, why not? What are your beliefs around relationships that you learned growing up? What has been your experiences? Is there a story that you are writing about your own desirability or attractiveness to the opposite sex? Just notice what needs to be internally cleaned out of your own “Inner Sanctum” and find a symbolic way of letting them go. For example, you can write down what you want to let go of and burn it, journal your story or maybe it is that old photo of your past relationship that is still hanging out in the bedroom drawer where you put it the day you broke up. Take it out and let it go.
Some advise for the guys out there:
So what do women really want? Do we really want flowers and chocolates? Fancy dinner and champagne? Not so much….at least not more than we want your deep heart and unwavering presence. We want you to hold us steady in your penetrating gaze when we are drowning in waves of emotion. We want to know that you thought outside of the Valentines box. Thought about us and found a way to show that you treasure us. Whether that means a handmade Valentines card and a romantic poem you wrote or a recreation of an “Evening in Paris” in your living room with diner and french music.
So, it’s not about the presents, but rather about your presence. Nothing touches us deeper….
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Do our thoughts create our reality or does our reality effect our thoughts… which then again effects our reality… This question is like a Zen koan containing the answer in the question. If you think too much about it, which I did for most of my life, you can get confused on when to actively dig and when to rest, when to rearrange and when to throw it all out and start over!
What I have discovered after many years of delving into my own unconscious combined with consulting hundreds of clients as a successful interior designer and feng shui consultant, is that it doesn’t matter which came first, it only matters that the inner reality and the outer environments actually express and reflect the life you want to live. Make it conscious because it is absolutely affecting your experience of life! Empower yourself to be aware of what you are calling forth through your inner voice and your outer expression.
Sanctum Design harmonizes psychology with feng shui design to create environments that are beautiful, balanced and life-giving.
Anything that disturbs our peace… have any?
Navigating through life doesn’t always have to be a struggle and we all need clear guidance every once and a while to help us see our way through. This guidance is available to each one of us and is the most intimate relationship we can foster. The relationship with our own inner guide is the one that I am committed to helping you develop. Building this relationship with our self by learning to first listen and secondly, to trust ourselves, allows us to finally give ourselves what it is that we are searching for in our jobs and our relationships.
Once I was frustrated with an old pattern that kept rearing its ugly head, even after years of traditional psychotherapy, and a wise teacher of mine said to me, “Laura, knowing what caused the cancer doesn’t cure the cancer”. What I began to realize was that the continual digging into the past to find the cause of my suffering wasn’t the complete answer for healing. The microscopic focus on the part of my story that cast me as a victim to some life situation left me feeling helpless or self-righteous instead of empowered and alive. I was so focused on how I was wronged that I stayed bound up inside.
With Sanctum Spiritual Psychology counseling, I want to share with you what I found that set me free. I have been through it and come out the other side and what I am offering to help you do is not only find the cause, but also to activate the cure through the healing of memories, radical forgiveness and consummate action. These three steps are the key, I believe, to living a life with deeper meaning, purpose and fulfillment.
These words flying out of our mouths should be a red alert signal that you are about to enter the classroom at earth school again. Spiritual Psychology believes that we are never upset for the reasons we think we are and that no one else has ultimate control over our emotional state. We may not be able to choose what happens, but we do have the choice to be empowered in how we react to what life is dishing up for us. This, in turn, determines how we actually experience our life on a daily basis as one bathed in peace or problems. The only reason I am ever upset is because I have decided that there is something unfair happening, and I am the victim. What happens when there are no longer any victims and you subscribe to the belief that life is happening for you rather than to you? How does your perception of situations change when you realize that the life, God, Spirit or whatever you choose to call it is actually conspiring to help your soul evolve and grow to its fullest potential.